How would you know your marriage is in trouble? There are a myriad of ways you can tell whether or not your marriage has crossed over into a danger â ď¸ zone.
These danger âď¸ signs may vary from one relationship to the next and they manifest for different reasons.
While itâs up to you both to determine exactly what is breaking down in your marriage, there are some basic signs and symptoms you can identify to help you discern whether your marriage needs help. If youâre wondering whether your relationship is in danger â ď¸ then read on.
Below are 3 common red flags đŠ that signal marriage sos đ.
1.đŠYOU FEEL LONELY đ EVEN WHEN YOU ARE TOGETHER.
You donât feel seen or heard the way you need to be. Perhaps your needs arenât being met- or worse, they arenât being acknowledged. Sometimes, spouses can drift apart, prioritizing outside activities and people (such as friends or in-laws) over the marriage relationship. This becomes apparent over time.
Knowing your spousesâs focus and energy are outside your marriage can make you feel deeply aloneđĽ˛
If youâre feeling this way on a regular basis, itâs important to work out why youâre feeling that way. Spend time journaling to help you articulate whatâs bothering you or call a trusted counselor to help you work it out, and to help both you and your partner be able to learn to communicate better with each other with some well researched and proven skills.
2.đŠYOUâRE HARBOURING DEEP RESENTMENT.
Often troubled marriages have an undercurrent of resentment and deep seated unresolved issues, built over years of marriage together. This might be on one or both of your parts.
Resentment develops in marriage when youâve spent time feeling hurt, dismissed or even neglected without any resolution or closure and the thing about resentment is that it can lead to deeper hurt feelings, such as indifference or contempt.
The first step to deciphering how you feel is to explore it. Be honest with yourself about why you are feeling resentful. Then, think about what steps you might be able to take to lessen that feeling. Is there a way you can reframe them? Could it be possible that your partner did their best with what they had at that moment, eventhough they didnât meet your expectations the way youâd envisioned?
Reframing resentment can be a helpful way to shift your emotions, even if theyâre still painful. Putting your memories and knowledge in a slightly different context can sometimes help you cope until of course you are both able to be vulnerable to communicate about these entrenched feelings and emotions. This is very important to work through.
3.đŠYOUR ARGUMENTS GET OUT OF CONTROL.
Poor marital health and dissatisfaction often rises to the surface during conflicts. Are your arguments spiraling out of control? Do both of you find that disagreements often escalate, making constructive problem solving impossible? If youâre struggling to solve common issues in a constructive manner, then youâre marriage might be in trouble. Work with a Relationship Counselor like Cynthia from 3R Counselling to help you unravel these deeper underlying issues if possible.
Donât hesitate to seek professional help to get your marriage right back on track. When you hit a rumble strip on the highway đŁ you have to course correct! Otherwise, youâll end up in the ditch!đŤThe same goes for your marriage, if you keep sweeping 𧚠issues under the carpet and not addressing it, this could erode your relationship in the futuređleading to separation and divorce.
With support and guidance from a trained and certified Relationship Counselor & Marriage Relationship Educator like Cynthia, itâs possible to renew the health of your relationship both now and in the future. So, why not, reap the benefits and fulfillment of all that your marriage has to offerđ
Please call or text Cynthia on 0404488238 for more information or check out www.3Rcounselling.com.au
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